This Advent, as Jenna and I remember the children we lost and dare dream of the Child to come, we are excited to announce that our own manger may one day be full. We have started the adoption process!Read More An Advent Announcement: We’re Adopting!
In my job, as I support the families of organ donors, I bear witness to the pain of indescribable human suffering every day. Where is God when the suffering of this life feels so senseless? Where was God when my own sons died?Read More Finding Comfort in the Senselessness of Suffering
The world of grief feels like a parallel universe, an Upside Down underworld that one must journey through to reach “Acceptance.” But is Acceptance truly accepted in the Land of the Living? Or is there another place where both darkness and light, both pain and peace can live together?Read More The Upside Down, Alternate Reality of Grief
Even in the face of death, it is easy to lose perspective and forget the miraculous wonder of everyday life. Rediscover this with me as I explore the tension of grief and gratitude that I have felt on this journey.Read More Grief and Gratitude
On August 21st, the day we had dreamed would be our baby boys’ birthday, the cosmos itself will grieve with us. On that day, a total solar eclipse will cross the entire country for the first time in 99 years. The sun will blacken, the crickets will chirp, and for a brief moment the bright daytime sky will become as dark as night.Read More When Day Becomes Night
Reading “Harry Potter” through the lens of grief for the first time has opened my eyes to this story’s powerfully intimate portrayal of death, depression, and pain.Read More A Griever’s Guide to “Harry Potter”
“I choose to live again.”
Grief can often feel like a thunderstorm raging within you – a battle between the pains of the past and the fears of the future. The cure is mindfulness – finding little ways of reconnecting to the present moment and choosing to live again. Learn some of these techniques here.Read More Mindfulness for Grief
Too often, fathers and families are forgotten victims in the aftermath of stillbirth.
In this post, I honor the grief of these forgotten fathers and families – of Patrick, our parents, our sisters, and their husbands – and I share four simple, magical words that can help you to remember their pain and their love too.Read More Forgotten Fathers and Families
How do you announce your “good news” when you know that it might be painful for someone else to hear?
Here are some tips that I have found helpful on my own infertility journey.Read More How to announce a pregnancy to your infertile friend
“You have lost enough already; don’t lose your marriage.”
What love can possibly survive the pain of miscarriage and stillbirth? As Patrick and I celebrate our anniversary this year, I know now that our love is stronger than our pain, for our love is stronger than death itself.Read More A Marriage Surviving Stillbirth