A Journey Through the Grief of Miscarriage and Stillbirth
Ever since our sons Ezra and Leo died, We have experienced an acute awareness of others’ pain. I suppose you could say that we “hear” the world differently. Hear the voices of prophets with us in Patrick’s sermon that he preached for Pentecost.
Read More “Prophets unheard” – A Sermon for Pentecost“I can do the impossible, because I have been through the unimaginable.”
Thrown into the deep end in my first days back in my work with the families of organ donors, I was faced with a choice – would I drown or would I swim?
Read More Thrown in the Deep EndAnyone in the midst of grief is empowered with certain rights – the Mourner’s Bill of Rights. Stand in that power, fellow traveler, and let no one take them from you.
Read More The Mourner’s Bill of RightsEnd-of-life discussions are vitally important – no matter your age, since a long life is not guaranteed. As I faced death, my family and I had to discuss my wishes – both funny and serious – before the crisis hit. And I encourage you to do the same!
Read More End-of-Life Discussions Before the End of LifeBabies should come with TRIGGER warnings. How can our pain be so life-consuming for us, yet so invisible to others?
Read More Watch Out for Invisible Gorillas“How does a pastor grieve?”
Patrick dares to ask this profound question as he wrestles with God’s absence in this article. Originally published as a column in Auburn’s local newspaper, “The Citizen.”
Read More How does a pastor grieve?On his first Sunday back at the church after the death of our sons, Patrick had to preach again for the first time. Courageously, Patrick chose to name his heartache aloud and to vulnerably share his grief with the congregation, thus robbing the pain of some of its power. This is his brave sermon, entitled “Life is Beautiful.”
Read More “Life is Beautiful” – A Sermon for StillbirthAmerican women are increasingly dying in childbirth, even as maternal mortality rates are falling around the world. I was nearly one of them… This is my story.
Read More Dying During Birth – My Story“An odd byproduct of my loss is that I’m aware of being an embarrassment to everyone I meet. At work, at the club, in the street, I see people, as they approach me, trying to make up their minds whether they’ll ‘say something about it’ or not. I hate it if they do, and if they don’t.”
– C.S. Lewis
Read More How Not to Say the Wrong Thing