“Confronted with sudden disaster, we all focus on how unremarkable the circumstances were in which the unthinkable occurred… Life changes in an instant. The ordinary instant.”
This moment – this ordinary, everyday moment – is a great equalizer. For precisely because of the ordinariness of this moment, we know that something like this could happen to any one of us.
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To “choose” a child through adoption is a daunting and impossible task. Can we “choose” Down’s Syndrome, for example? And is that different than when biology dictates your choice?
Journey with us as we face these seemingly impossible choices faced in adoption…
Read More The Impossibility of “Choosing” a Child
New years bring new beginnings, new hopes, new dreams. There is perhaps no greater testament to this fact than the transformation of our empty nursery, whose door was once ominously closed but is now swung open in excited anticipation…
Read More An Empty Nursery
Ezra and Leo’s legacy lives on, saving lives by helping others give the gift of life through organ donation. Perhaps, in part, because of their story, another little baby somewhere out there is living on today. I can think of no greater gift this Christmas than that.
Read More A Life-Saving Legacy
O’ Childless Mother This Christmas, I see you. Today marks 2 years since the due date of our first baby lost to miscarriage. From one childless mother to another, know that you do not have to face this Christmas alone.
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As we start the next step in the journey to create our family, we are facing new challenges. Learn more how you too can join us on our journey.
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As we enter Advent, the season of waiting for the Christ child, Presbyterian Outlook is sharing the stories of parents who bear the grief of infertility, pregnancy loss and infant loss. As a part of this series, Presbyterian Outlook graciously asked Patrick to write a reflection on stillbirth from a father’s perspective. Read this, as well as the stories of other parents who have endured the pain of grief, in this remarkable series.
Read More See me: A father’s perspective on stillbirth
In my job, as I support the families of organ donors, I bear witness to the pain of indescribable human suffering every day. Where is God when the suffering of this life feels so senseless? Where was God when my own sons died?
Read More Finding Comfort in the Senselessness of Suffering
The world of grief feels like a parallel universe, an Upside Down underworld that one must journey through to reach “Acceptance.” But is Acceptance truly accepted in the Land of the Living? Or is there another place where both darkness and light, both pain and peace can live together?
Read More The Upside Down, Alternate Reality of Grief
Even in the face of death, it is easy to lose perspective and forget the miraculous wonder of everyday life. Rediscover this with me as I explore the tension of grief and gratitude that I have felt on this journey.
Read More Grief and Gratitude