On Sunday, April 9, 2017, our twin boys, Ezra Lee and Leo Allen, died. They were born stillborn, just a day shy of 21 weeks. Any stillbirth is tragic. Yet, this loss was particularly painful, because this was supposed to be our double rainbow, the much awaited and longed for babies after we had already endured four early miscarriages within two years. Now, we are simply trying to put one foot in front of the other.Read More The Purpose of This Blog
Just before midnight on Sunday, April 9, 2017, our two sons, Ezra Lee and Leo Allen, died. Yet, their lives saved my own life. This is the heroic story of their birth.Read More Our Stillbirth Story
Reaching out from the depths of her darkness, another mother looked to me in that moment to guide her toward the light.
I answered her as honestly as I could, “Only with a lot of support.”Read More A Mother Reaching Out to Other Mothers
On August 21st, the day we had dreamed would be our baby boys’ birthday, the cosmos itself will grieve with us. On that day, a total solar eclipse will cross the entire country for the first time in 99 years. The sun will blacken, the crickets will chirp, and for a brief moment the bright daytime sky will become as dark as night.Read More When Day Becomes Night
You are parents without children and there are children in the world without parents; problem solved.
This is one of the most daunting questions that someone who is enduring infertility faces.
Adoption is beautiful. As the sister of a birth mother, I know this more intimately than most. However, adoption is also complicated and it is not a cure. There is no JUST about adoption.Read More “Why don’t you just adopt?”
Reading “Harry Potter” through the lens of grief for the first time has opened my eyes to this story’s powerfully intimate portrayal of death, depression, and pain.Read More A Griever’s Guide to “Harry Potter”
“I choose to live again.”
Grief can often feel like a thunderstorm raging within you – a battle between the pains of the past and the fears of the future. The cure is mindfulness – finding little ways of reconnecting to the present moment and choosing to live again. Learn some of these techniques here.Read More Mindfulness for Grief
Too often, fathers and families are forgotten victims in the aftermath of stillbirth.
In this post, I honor the grief of these forgotten fathers and families – of Patrick, our parents, our sisters, and their husbands – and I share four simple, magical words that can help you to remember their pain and their love too.Read More Forgotten Fathers and Families
How do you announce your “good news” when you know that it might be painful for someone else to hear?
Here are some tips that I have found helpful on my own infertility journey.Read More How to announce a pregnancy to your infertile friend